TRUE ....VERY SAD STORY........ MUST READ AND SHARE. LETS SAVE OUR TEENAGERS

TRUE ....VERY SAD STORY........ MUST READ AND SHARE. LETS SAVE OUR TEENAGERS

Written by a COLLEGE GIRL before she DIED.....

 I Took Off My UNDERWEAR..
 I used to be that innocent girl who had the world at her feet. I was beautiful and I had eyes and HIPS that could make men sway, and to top it all up, I was a Christian, a very good Christian with a heart burning for God. When I entered the university, I met a guy, his name was DERRICK. I couldn’t believe my luck the first time I bumped into him on my way to class, he had such a kind smile and a tender look that weakened my knees when he spoke. Because I was late for class we couldn’t talk much but barely three weeks later, I met him at the fresher’s night party and I was overwhelmed. We got talking and I found out that he was in his second year and from that night, we became an inseparable pair. At first, we were friends and as months passed by, we got closer and closer and the chemistry between us was undeniable.

 About a year after I entered the university, Derrick and I started dating. He was everything a girl could ever want and desire save the fact that he wasn’t so much of a Christian. Derrick had magical hands that made him hard to resist and most times I fell for it. At first, I felt bad but when I couldn’t help falling into the same pit I killed the guilt on my inside. And then one day, one of my friends said I was getting fatter and that got me thinking and in the process I began to link the dots…first I had a vomiting spree every morning which I thought was due to a flu and then I had this morning sickness which I felt was due to stress and then my missing period…oh no it can’t be possible I said to myself, I couldn’t be pregnant!!!
 After a series of test outside school, I realized the deadliest truth, I was indeed pregnant. I was only nineteen, I still had a whole life ahead of me, what was I going to do. I couldn’t tell my parents, they wouldn’t hear of it. I had to go to Derrick to tell him what I had found out.

 On telling him, I saw him fly into a temper I had never seen in my life. He was so hysterical, calling me all sorts of names and I didn’t even know when I started crying heart drenching tears of hurt and betrayal. When he looked into my eyes he must have realized how scared and hurt I was and so he pulled me close and ran his hands through my hair until I had calmed down and then he said tome in the most subtle voice ever ”why don’t you have an abortion”. I pulled back instantly, I couldn't have an abortion! But when he talked about my parents and the sanctioning of the school and the fellowship which I belonged to, I knew I had no other choice.

 Derrick had made all the arrangements and so on the supposed day we went to the room- like clinic. I shivered all through my way there but Derrick kept telling me that it would be okay and that he was proud that I made such a brave decision. When I entered into the room where the abortion was supposed to take place I laid down on the table trying to dissociate my mind from what I was about to do and then a young man told me sternly, ”you know I can’t perform this procedure with your underwear on” and then I began to pull it off. As I did this a sense of guilt overwhelmed me, first I had pulled off my UNDERWEAR of pleasure and now I was pulling it off to get rid of the stigma the pleasure had brought…what a shame, I felt so exposed.

 All through the times that I felt instruments coming in and out of me, I kept thinking of the lady I had become and the hypocrite I had transformed into. I let out a sigh, only if I can get through this I muttered… only if…and then I felt a sharp pain pierce through the whole of my body, I screamed but then the doctor told me to be quiet. I felt another pain but this time I bit my lip and then the pain began to come in successions. I instinctively knew that something was wrong but I was too weak to talk or to move and then I heard the voices of Derrick and the doctor talking about the fact that I was bleeding excessively. The pain was so unbearable and I could feel myself getting weaker and weaker. With the last strength in me, I pleaded with God ”Oh Lord I’m so sorry for taking my under wears off, please forgive me.” and I drifted into a world where the pain seemed less hurtful and the voices seemed more distant.

 Friends, our bodies are the temple of the Lord… Do not take off your UNDERWEAR when the time is not right. Lots of girls who gained admission into the university as virgins eventually lost it so cheaply to guys who have nothing to do with their destinies. In a bid to get a certificate, they sold out a destiny that certificate cannot guarantee....she died long time ago..

 If U HAVE A HEART and her story and death touched YOU....write R.I.P.....if YOU didn't feel anything ignore........R.I.P

MY PERSONAL ADVICE TO FACEBOOK LADIES, ESPECIALLY THOSE IN THEIR TWENTIES...

MY PERSONAL ADVICE TO FACEBOOK
LADIES,
ESPECIALLY THOSE IN THEIR
TWENTIES...

* Guys love to marry an Independent and Matured lady... So instead of sitting there and waiting to be
bluffed by a guy, focus on getting a career that would take you out of the house
wife category...

* Never let the sweet talks of guys deceive you, most times they just want to
go between your legs and run off thereafter. *Remove the mentality from your
mind that guys will keep springing up to approach you.The older you get
by the day, the less toasters you will have.
 

*Playing 'too' hard to get is the worst thing you should ever start, remember,
Nothing lasts forever. If you still doubt, check out the number of matured
single ladies looking up to GOD FOR A MIRACLE.
 

*Never extort things from a guy you don't love, guys always have ways of
paying a girl back, either through their FRIENDS or total 'PAID' STRANGERS....BE
CAREFUL.
*Never be deceived you can trap a guy through sex. A man will also return to his wife who sex starve
him for years once he loves and trust her. You can never win a man over with your body.
*If all you take to the relationship is the mind set to EXTRACT MONEY from him,
don't complain if all he ask from you is your body. He has seen you have nothing else
to offer...
* Don't be fooled when Guys tell you they have never met a prettier girl, they
will say that same thing to an 80year old woman they want to get intimate
with.
*A guy always taking you to the SILVER BED, FAST FOOD (pizza in or galitos),
MALL AND EVENTS AT CONFERENCE CENTRE / NATIONAL THEATRE is no sign that
he loves you, if he doesn't care to ask and PLAN  YOUR FUTURE
TOGETHER then you are just his 'SOCIAL MATE' and nothing else....
*If the only time he invites you over is when he needs to cook, clean the house
and do his laundry, then just know you are his "executive house help".
*If he avoids meeting your family and close friends then it is an obvious sign
he is just playing games with you. 

 *Don't always change the tv station from NTV to CHANNEL O , MTV and Fashion
TV. Take time to find out what is bothering him and how you can help out.
*If the only places he doesn't frown when you enter are his bedroom and
kitchen then know you aren't welcome (only being used).

Have you noticed that most of the ladies that end up being emotionally abused
are the ones at the receiving end... Always with open arms, requesting for something
and ready to receive...

The more you widen your arms, the more he widens your legs...

A grown up guy who gives the excuse about his parents being
wild when he brings female visitors to the house is a sign that
HE HAS A SERIOUS GIRL AND HAS INTRODUCED HER TO HIS PARENTS
ALREADY... ADVISE YOURSELF...
FINALLY, I ALWAYS SAY THIS AND WILL REPEAT IT AGAIN... It's better to be sitting
in a taxi  smiling happily than to be in your
husbands fresh air conditioned BMW x6 with bruised eyes wearing a fresh Gucci shades
alongside a Burberry scarf....

JUST REMEMBER, THAT
DATING A RICH MAN DOESN'T
GUARANTEE
HAPINESS IN MARRIAGE... MONEY IS
NOT EVERYTHING.....
MAKING RIGHT CHOICES IN LIFE IS
WHAT MATTERS MOST...

LADIES: Why MEN run away from FATHERHOOD

Everyone has a friend or knows a woman who is raising children on their own, there is no doubt single motherhood has become a norm in today’s world.  There are various circumstances that lead to this but let’s focus on cases where the dad split the day he got wind of the pregnancy.

You know how it goes, the chic calls or texts with the dreaded “we need to talk” the guy says “it’s not mine” before the poor girl even says am pregnant. Either way, it’s the lady who ends up with the responsibility man or no man. The big question here is why do men do this; he has a good job, even cruises around town in a sleek car so it’s not always monetary. Here are five of the main reasons according to Eric Payne.

1. Caught Up in the “Self”
At every point in men world he is often engrossed in one thing or another. For some it’s their job, you know the type that would be glued to their laptops all night and all day, techies especially. There are others that are not so passionate about their jobs but that daily bar chat with the boys during weekdays and out of town weekend plots keeps them busy. Men get scared of losing their “lives” hence they will postpone anything that interrupts that schedule or routine and if it comes by mistake they run. Anything other than what they have programmed is chaos in a man’s mind which is why you’ll hear “…but I’m working on this and that” or “Not now.”

2. Past Experiences

There are some men who have endured physically and emotionally abusive relationships as children and whether they received therapy for this or not, they don’t trust their ability to not do the same thing to a child of their own. Its common for men not to trust themselves with the tenderness of a child, that’s why some can’t hold a new born baby. In aggravated cases a man will also fear raising the child or having anything to do with it.

3. They were never “men” to begin with. 
A man is by no means some mythological archetype of human strength and perfection but rather someone who accepts accountability for their actions and owns up to them, no matter what. This isn’t the easiest thing to do considering accountability isn’t taught to a man in too many places. The only place a man can learn to be responsible and accountable is from his family or dad to be specific, which today’s family set up doesn’t provide much of. I mean, in some families the mother is the breadwinner, in others the dad provides but is never at home to discipline or talk to the kids or he is there but never gives a hoot. Simply put, boys can only learn to be men from other men and that is a rare species in the new world order.

4. A Father Yes, Husband NO
A man might be at a point in his life where he is ready to be a father but there’s a strong possibility he may not want the particular woman he’s impregnated to be the mother of his child or his wife. He might resent the idea of having wasted his “seed” on this particular woman and now being stuck with her. As a girl it’s up to you to know the difference between the two, he wants to be a father and he wants you as a wife. 

When a man is in his early thirties he gets this natural urge to procreate, to be a father, this however isn’t tied to being a husband. That explains why he gets you pregnant and splits, has no qualms with taking responsibility but wants nothing to do with you as a woman. In this case the man is running from you as opposed to the child. There is also a time when a man wants a family; he wants to come home to someone, that’s the perfect time to get paged if your plan is to get him on lock down. Get the timing right, know what he wants in his life and when.

5. Low Esteem
Esteem issues affect different things in human beings and they get into play as far as procreation is concerned. When a man is responsible for a child he naturally wants to be able to give that child his all, more so the things he wished for but didn’t have.

If a man is struggling to do right by himself it certainly causes him to doubt his prospective parenting skills. Fathers don’t have the luxury of bonding physiologically with a child in the womb they therefore don’t have the connection that moms do during pregnancy. The man might convince himself that he will bring his child more harm than good and decide his unborn little one is better off without him and cause him to run.

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Lionel Messi turns down INSANE £460k a week offer from Russian club

  Barcelona prodigy Lionel Messi is reported to have turned down a lucrative move to an unknown Russian club after a bid of £205m (Sh28.167 billion) triggered his release clause.

The club, thought to be Anzhi Makhachkala, then offered a whooping £460,000-a-week (Sh63.204m!) deal to the Argentine superstar, a massive £24m (Sh3.27b!) a year after tax.

Barcelona were inclined to accept the massive offer but Messi quickly rejected the move after discussions with Barca president Sandro Rosell and his family.

The three-time World Player of the Year, who scored a record breaking 91 goals this calendar year, then pledged his future by signing a new deal with the Catalan giants.

The approach came during negotiations that ended earlier this month with the Argentine signing a two-year contract extension at the Nou Camp.

While the story in El Mundo Deportivo, a Spanish sports daily, does not name the Russian club, billionaire-owned Anzhi are felt to be the likeliest candidates.

Anzhi made ex-Barca striker Samuel Eto’o the game’s highest paid player when they signed him last year.

Messi, 25, has won the Ballon d’Or, awarded annually to the world’s best player for two years in a row and is widely tipped to make it three on the spin.

He also set a football record that may never be broken in 2012, scoring 91 times for club and country in the calendar year to break the 40 year record set by  Germany legend Gerd Muller  of  85 set in 1972.

SportsMole.

Man Utd tracking the next Nemanja Vidic

  Manchester United manager Sir Alex Ferguson has expressed his reservations over the fitness of returning Captain Nemanja Vidic and the long-term future of his partner Rio Ferdinand, a situation that has forced him to scout for a possible replacement.

Fergie has set his sights on highly rated 20-year old FC Nordsjaelland defender Jores Okore.

According to The People although the Scot does not like ­doing business in the winter transfer window he  has told scouts and contacts that he wants a central defender because of fears over Nemanja Vidic’s fitness and Rio Ferdinand’s long-term future.

The first rising defender is high on his list of targets after impressing in his club’s Champions League ­campaign.

Okore is regarded as one of Europe’s best emerging centre-backs and has recently broken into the Danish national team.

Born in the Ivory Coast but raised in Denmark, Okore has won rave reviews for his ­–power and tough tacking play as well as his technical ability.

The Red Devils’ defence has been one of the weak points in a team with an avalanche of attacking options at Fergie’s disposal.

The Red Devils have conceded 28 goals already this season, just five short of the total for the whole of last season, but still have a seven-point cushion at the summit of the Premier League.

SAUDI WOMEN BEING ELECTRONICALLY TRACKED

 SAUDI WOMEN BEING ELECTRONICALLY TRACKED

 

HUSBANDS in Saudi Arabia are now monitoring their wives' movements out of the country using electronic tracking.

 Women in the ultra conservative country are already denied the right to travel without consent from their male guardians and banned from driving.

 But now women in oil rich kingdom are being spied on by an electronic system that picks-up any cross-border movements.

 Since last week, Saudi women’s male guardians began receiving text messages if their women left the country - even if they are travelling together.

 “The authorities are using technology to monitor women,” said columnist Badriya al-Bishr, who criticized the “state of slavery under which women are held” in the kingdom.

 Saudi women are not allowed to leave the kingdom without permission from their male guardian, usually husband or father, who must give consent by signing what is known as the “yellow sheet” at the airport or border.

 The move by the Saudi authorities was swiftly condemned on social network Twitter - with many criticising the crackdown.

 “If I need an SMS to let me know my wife is leaving Saudi Arabia, then I’m either married to the wrong woman or need a psychiatrist,” tweeted a user called Hisham.

 Read more: http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/4661353/Saudi-women-being-electronically-tracked.html#ixzz2Fxzqp31T

Nairobi women and their many ‘hoes’

 

Nairobi women and their many ‘hoes’ 

 

They are young, beautiful and live on the fast lane — enjoying every city luxury, yet their monthly pay is peanuts, writes Shirley Genga

The Nairobi woman is barely 23, but she lives in a Sh55,000 apartment in Kileleshwa.

She wears shoes worth Sh4,000 (in five different colours); her handbags cost Sh6,000 and her long fake European hair costs a whopping Sh8,000 to attach.

 She has an iPhone 4 or the latest gadget that everyone in town lusts for. She drives a new red Toyota Ist and, to top it off, has an accent that can easily be confused as American yet she has never stepped out of the country.

When she goes out with her girlfriends, she pays a Sh20,000 bill without blinking — yet she barely earns that in a month.

Brilliant budgeting? Nah! Shrewd saving skills? Of course not!

If you examine her life closely, you realise her rich lifestyle can all be attributed to one thing:  ‘Multitasking’.

 To survive today’s tough economy, young Nairobi women have taken multitasking to a new level by ‘triple dealing’ — dating three, or even more men depending on their financial ambitions.

Their excuse? You cannot eat love.

In the good old days, all a woman had to do when she wanted to climb the social ladder quickly without breaking a sweat was to get her hands on an rich sugar daddy.  

Nowadays, since not everyone can have a rich sugar daddy, Nairobi women delegate and spread their financial obligations amongst different men.

The new ‘sugar daddy’ is no longer that sneaky old rich guy who is married with children. These days, he does not even have to be married or extremely rich.

All a man has to do to qualify is to have some income and he is a good breathing ATM for today’s Nairobi woman, who has expensive tastes but no cash. Roles are distributed to unsuspecting men, usually according to their financial capabilities.

Thus, while one boyfriend pays for the monthly hair and shoe expenses; another pays rent and food and the other provides the monthly entertainment allowance.

Often, a fourth — the ‘real’ boyfriend — is added into the mix. The number usually depends on how greedy and well horned a woman’s multitasking skills are.

Unapologetic

Jackie, an administrator with a locally owned company in town, claims she can barely survive on what she makes at the end of the month and is unapologetic about her lifestyle.

“I have always wanted to stay in a good house and drive a nice car. I can’t do it on my salary. I have three boyfriends; one who pays for my house bills, another who pays for my beauty upkeep and my real boyfriend who doesn’t earn much,” she says.

Because of this arrangement, she is able to live comfortably and is even planning to buy a Toyota Vitz next February.

Juliet Akinyi, a student who owns a clothing store, says she has two boyfriends.

 “I have an older boyfriend who is married; he pays most of my bills and the rent for my two-bedroom apartment in Westlands. He is even the one who helped me start my business,” she explains

  But she also has another boyfriend who is three years older.

“He has just gotten a job and doesn’t have much money, but he is the one I love and intend to marry,” she states. Mike Juma, a banker, says he was shocked when his girlfriend, a fellow banker, invited him to her place for dinner.

“She lived in a three bedroom maisonette in South C. Everything, from her 46-inch Samsung television to her double door fridge, was state-of-the-art. We earn the same salary, but all I can afford is a servant’s quarter in South C. It made no sense. I suspected something was not right because she was living way above her means. But I kept quite,” says Juma.

His fears were confirmed a month later when he found out from a colleague at work that his ‘girlfriend’ had a string of men who took care of her financially.

Shocked, he made a random visit to her house one Friday night when she was apparently ‘not available’ only to find her entertaining another man.

Victim

 Moses Owiti, a businessman who found himself in a bit of a muddle with the last woman he dated, is another victim. He claims that she did not even bother to hide the fact that she had two other men in her life. After going on a few dates, she casually let him know that he was not the only man in her life as she already had two other boyfriends.

“I could not believe her nerve. She let me know that she had two other boyfriends, yet she was stunned when I immediately ended our relationship. She actually believed that we could continue our relationship as if nothing was amiss!” he says.

But why would married men spend large amounts of money keeping women?

Several men who spoke to this writer said keeping a woman is cheaper than having one night stands.

Cooks

“The most you can spend on such a woman is say Sh30,000 a month. But she cooks dinner and you have a getaway from home when the wife becomes a nag. You can’t compare that with sleeping in lodgings, which cost as much as Sh5,000 a night in some places,” one explained.

It, however, appears the real attraction such Nairobi women have for men is the opportunity for unprotected sex.

Jorum Martim, who runs a sleek butchery in Kitengela, says that when he starts paying rent for a woman, she becomes his wife, meaning using condoms is out of the question.

But that is where things start going wrong. Most obvious is the risk of contracting or spreading sexually transmitted diseases, since the men they fraternise with often also have relationships with other women.

There are also the Nairobi women who eventually fall in love with the good life and the men who fund it. In a bid to make the relationship permanent, they become pregnant. To their horror, instead of that tying up men, most vanish into thin air.

Towed

Tales abound of pregnant Nairobi women who suddenly find the financial support cut off, the rent to the apartment unpaid, and the Vitz towed away. Little wonder the Children’s Court remains a lively name-calling circus.

Abandoned with a child and without cash and the comforts they were accustomed to, their lives careen downhill and they end up bitter and angry.

But there are the smart ones who juggle it so well that financial security is assured for the rest of their lives. When they land a big fish, an apartment is bought, business and employment contacts are made and exploited, enabling them to make a tidy sum and lift their social status even higher, where they can play around and hook even bigger fish.

So men, when you see a Nairobi woman approaching you with killer hips, a seductive smile and a bewitching bust, don’t fall flat. At least don’t brag too much about the conquest, or dream that you are firmly in the driver’s seat.

You may not be the only bean in her githeri, but just a cog in her financial base.

Your role could be to service her fabulous but elusive Nairobi lifestyle in return for a token service once in a while, when he ‘real’ boyfriend is out of town.